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How to Make Friends and Influence People

  1. Never insult/criticize/downgrade any one. If you are 50% right then should invest in share market. Can you? Then how come you believe that you are always right in any argument.
  2. The only benefit one can get from an argument is by staying away from it. You will loose in either cases.
  3. If two people always agrees to all of things, then it should be considered that one of them is not interested in it.
  4. You should feed the fish what she likes not what you like to catch her. Even if you don't like what fish eats.
  5. Always start conversation in a friendly way. Make them believe that you are a friend.
  6. Always start conversation by letting them say ‘yes’. When time correct time comes explain your views. Once you hear ‘no’, things will be always difficult. You should make them feel 'important and welcomed'. Tell that your goals are same. If a person is negative and saying No then his whole neuron-muscular system is aligning to say no. The more you make them say the more you are close to agree on your point. Never start negative from your end. Remember Yes-->Yes-->Yes-->Yes-->Infusion.
  7. Never prove anyone wrong.
  8. One drop of honey attracts more bees than gallons of other things. Making the person believe that you are his friend is that drop of honey. – Lincoln
  9. Man with silent walk goes further!
  10. Let the person in-front of you talk instead you talking to prove your point. Never interrupt, its dangerous. Listen completely. Encourage them to elaborate completely.
  11. There is always benefit when you listen, be a good listener.
  12. Every person likes to talk about its struggle.
  13. Every one is proud of its name. 
  14. Everyone is more interested in talking about himself rather than listening about yourself.
  15. Explain how certain things can benefit them.
  16. If you want to make friend let them go further, if you want to make enemies then go ahead than them. 
  17. No one likes to be explained. Everyone likes to do any thing by their own. 
  18. You should sell what he want not what you want. You should let them think and express the views about your product.
  19. Asking suggestions makes people feel that they are important.
  20. Giving credit makes people important. Everyone likes to be important.
  21. Saints keeps themselves behind to go ahead than them. Rivers flows through mountains keeps themselves lower to gain water from springs. By doing this they make others lower than themselves. You have to keep yourself behind than others in order to go ahead than them in the end.
  22. Any fool can criticize, only smart people have patience to understand the reasons behind such behavior. Because, by taking interest in the reasons you can stay away from the criticism. 
  23. Conversation can only be fruitful when the person accepts that you are similarly concerned for their feelings as yours.
  24. 'I have no intention to blame you, I would have done/said same thing that you are doing' -- Most Powerful sentence
  25. Give empathy to angry people, most of the people are craving for sympathy. 
  26. Everyone talks about two things, one is what is original and another is what feels good to hear.
  27. People thinks more about those reason's issues that feels good to listen and talk.
  28. Express or present truth in a dramatic way. Like adverts
  29. Always start with praise before start of criticism
  30. Use 'and' instead of 'but' while criticizing
  31. Never criticize directly 
  32. Always criticize yourself first
  33. Ask questions instead of direct order
  34. Give chance to save their dignity
  35. No one likes false praise
  36. Treat a defect of a person as his best thing and praise it to motivate him to do what u want
  37. Give person such image that he will try to maintain
  38. Handover work to the person such way that he would do it happily.
  39. To get work done, there is only one way - Develop feeling/will/desire in that person to do it.
  40. Always give importance. Remember divorce story. Importance is the human need like other needs such as food cloths shelter
  41. Don't hesitate to true praise someone.
  42. People crave for the praise
  43. Ask yourself how can you create a will/desire in that person to the thing that you wish to do from him
  44. Talk about his ambitions/needs is the way to make him work for you 
  45. Take interest in people's lives, ambitions etc
  46. A person who is not interested in others faces the most struggles in life and he troubles others the most
  47. Smile! meet people with extreme joy
  48. If you don't do this then you are in trouble - Always remember names
  49. Put yourself in his eyes and show him his interest
  50. listening to someone completely is one of the highest honor/respect/praise to him
  51. Always think about what you want to listen as well than talk
  52. Talk about what other person is interested
  53. Make other feel that, ' you are important'
  54. Make them feel important by catching superiority flaw. Talk about how they are better than you in certain areas
  55. During an argument think opposite person as if he is helping you
  56. Always start with the points that you agree with him
  57. Never teach or prove something directly, it should always be indirect and you should never let them know this
  58. Always present new idea/thought as if you are recollecting something from the past. 
  59. Always start with something like ' I might be wrong, I make mistakes......'
  60. Always accept mistake before someone point at you